"BDSM as a Tonic for Serious Illness," in Scientific American

“BDSM…can provide an unexpected tool kit for those faced with body-altering, life-changing, serious illnesses. These tools include redefinition, acceptance and connection.”

Yes! Sociologist Elizabeth Anne Wood beautifully and succinctly articulates the role our sexuality and sexual expression can play in navigating the experience of illness, a lesson she learned by witnessing the experience of her mother during kidney cancer and subsequent dialysis. I love so many things about this article and can’t wait to check our her recently published full length book entitled Bound: A Daugher, A Domme, and an End-of-Life Story.

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Thomas Talks About Coming Out. Twice.

I love this brief (13 minute) podcast episode hosted by Erica Heilman in conversation with Thomas Caswell. Check it out!

“Autism doesn’t describe a person. If you’ve met one person with autism, then you’ve met one person…with autism. But over the last couple years Thomas has been coming out of the closet, in stages. And along with the common difficulties of coming out, there are some special difficulties if you’re a person with a disability. In this show, Thomas talks about growing up with autism, and growing into his life as a gay man.”

Sex, Surgery and Scar Tissue Remediation

“We are truly in relationship to our body at all times—some of us consciously and some not so much.  Regardless of our conscious connection, surgery and illness is a conflict in that relationship.  It may compromise our trust in our body.  We may be angry with our body.  Thinking about our body may inspire nothing but tears and pain and grief.  But like any relationship, if we desire to restore connection after a conflict, it takes effort.  We reach out.  We express our feelings.  We forgive.  And we get to know each other all over again, from this new place, because neither of us are quite the same.”

People need sexuality support after surgery and illness. This post talks about why and how.

Inclusive Erotica for All of Us

“People with disabilities are often left out of conversations about sex as well as sexy time resources. But like in all areas of life, it’s important for people with disabilities to see themselves represented with sexual agency in erotic works of art, including film, literature, art, theater and photography.”

It’s important for all of us to see representations of ourselves in all kinds of media, and it’s important for all of us to see all kinds of bodies, desires, and sexual expressions in media. Inclusive erotica, inclusive sexuality education, accessible sex…these things make sex better for all of us.

So whether you identify as a person with a disability or as non-disabled, check out the incredible writers, artists, and performers on The Mighty’s list of Inclusive Erotica Featuring People With Disabilities You Can Read, Watch and Enjoy. This list is going to keep me busy for awhile!

Is Mindful Masturbation Going Mainstream??

Imagine my surprise and delight to discover an article about Mindful Masturbation on InStyle online! Granted they refer to it as the “witchy-lite cousin” of sex magic, which is an interesting perspective, but how exciting to see the concept out there in the wide world!

Click HERE to read the article.

And click HERE or HERE to read my previous blog posts on the why and the how of Mindful Masturbation (or what I call Erotic Embodiment Practice).