"BDSM as a Tonic for Serious Illness," in Scientific American

“BDSM…can provide an unexpected tool kit for those faced with body-altering, life-changing, serious illnesses. These tools include redefinition, acceptance and connection.”

Yes! Sociologist Elizabeth Anne Wood beautifully and succinctly articulates the role our sexuality and sexual expression can play in navigating the experience of illness, a lesson she learned by witnessing the experience of her mother during kidney cancer and subsequent dialysis. I love so many things about this article and can’t wait to check our her recently published full length book entitled Bound: A Daugher, A Domme, and an End-of-Life Story.

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Sex, Surgery and Scar Tissue Remediation

“We are truly in relationship to our body at all times—some of us consciously and some not so much.  Regardless of our conscious connection, surgery and illness is a conflict in that relationship.  It may compromise our trust in our body.  We may be angry with our body.  Thinking about our body may inspire nothing but tears and pain and grief.  But like any relationship, if we desire to restore connection after a conflict, it takes effort.  We reach out.  We express our feelings.  We forgive.  And we get to know each other all over again, from this new place, because neither of us are quite the same.”

People need sexuality support after surgery and illness. This post talks about why and how.